Back to what I was asking in the beginning, do we really want to hear the truth from a man? When a man says he doesn’t love you, stop letting your girlfriends in the peanut gallery tell you differently. How many times have you heard, “girl you know he doesn’t mean that”. “I’ve seen how he looks at you”. Let the man tell you he didn’t mean that and thoroughly explain to you why he said it in the first place. But until then you take him at his word. We are not physic, we have no crystal ball, and we cannot step into the mind of the man or read his heart to genuinely do any better than to accept him at his word. We are told in scripture that they truth will set you free. The truth may hurt, but the truth also set’s the framework for further encounters. What is really more hurtful a man who lies about seeing other women or the man who tells you up front he is seeing other women? I know you know the answer, the man who lies, because at the end of the day the man who told you the truth gave you no false expectations. He allowed you to enter into this encounter with your eyes wide open. So once again we end with an admonition, do not be the victim, but the victor. Don’t be angry with men who tell you the truth up front, celebrate them, embrace them, applaud them for being honest and giving you the room and the courage to do what is in your best interest.