Help I am out of control!!

I am sure many can relate to this statement or cry “help I am out of control!” so I decided to write this article to encourage you as much as it is intended to encourage myself. At a weekly woman’s bible study held in my home we ladies made a pact. This pact had everything to do with taking control of areas in our life that were out of control. The beauty of this pact is that we are not trying to make world evolutionary changes but we are committing to identifying one area in our life that is out of control then identify one, simply one thing that we each could do to begin to bring that area in to control. We agreed that sometimes the most overwhelming prospect of anything is absolute drastic change. We believed that if it was too drastic we would eventually fail.  

Here’s some examples of areas that can be out of control:

Dieting – it must become a way of life. Changing a palate, a habit, taste buds and the like all at once can seem defeating at least I know that is true for me. This is for free: Don’t fool yourself into believing that if you do something for 30 days that it becomes habit. Like anything you must work at this for the rest of your life.

Balance in life – family, friends, relationships, God, etc. Obtaining balance in these areas instantaneously can seem impossible.

Disciplining anything that has not been disciplined – pets, children, etc. Trying to correct anything that wasn’t put in check form the onslaught can seem daunting.

Exercise  - having led a life of sporadic ups and downs in the world of exercise can seem unbearable when one tries to bring exercise back into his or her life.

Studying the bible – attempting to make bible study a daily regime can seem an uphill battle, especially when it has not been a consistent, or worse something you’ve done on a regular basis in the past.

Cleaning your house – with such a busy life cleaning the house is the last thing you really want to do and left unchecked you have no idea where to begin.
Spending – a life that’s busy, bored, uncensored, and undisciplined can continually find itself financially stressed, even broke.

Of course as always this list is not meant to be exhaustive just reflective. We acknowledged in the bible study that if we took one issue at a time, one component at a time, over time we would be victorious at bringing our out of control lives back into control.

Here’s some steps I am personally taking to bring my out of control life into control.

I am looking at a particular issue with just the day I am in at hand. The bible says give no thought for tomorrow for tomorrow has enough issues of its own. So my focus is today. At the end of the day on a calendar I will mark off that day.

I will identify the area that I would like to tackle first and then identify one component that I can tackle that day, spelling out victory for that day. Example: Dieting – already stated it must become a life style. One component I am tackling is the elimination of sodas and any sweetened drinks from my daily intake. I have made a picture of tea with the natural sweetener stevia, so I am still getting some sweet just a sweet that is better for me. I am also drinking more water and adding lemon juice as a natural diuretic.

After I have gone a few days with this goal in mind and I feel that I have brought that particular component into submission to me, I will look at another component that needs to be added. Example: I walked my dogs today a mile and when I came home I had a glass of water with lemon juice in it. VICTORY!

I won’t be critical of myself. I will allow myself grace while I go through this process. If there are 31 days in a month and I follow this pattern 5, 10, 15, 20, or 25 and more days I will celebrate every day that I followed through realizing that however many days I did it is more than the previous months of my life and no matter how you look at it I am better off.

I will seek strength during this process from God. I will pray for strength and will power. I realize that I need help to reposition myself or even help to get some place I have never been. I will utilize all elements of worship (praise and worship, prayer, scripture) to mentally strength myself.

I will use these very affirmations to encourage myself daily.

I will strive to be and do the best that I can, by understanding what my make-up is and not desiring the make-up of someone else.

I will only share my goals with those who will encourage me and not those who will follow along only to wait for the fall. Positive people must be a part of my daily affirmations. These positive people must never chastise or criticize me in any area that I fail to have victory in during this process.

I will love me during the journey.

Each one of the above mentioned out of control areas and those that you describe can be applied with the same principles. Just remember one step at a time, one component at a time.
If you would like to join us please do and post your comments on what you’re doing to bring your out of control life back in to control.


  1. This is an excellent article..I am in on finding balance in my life, being around positive people and working on at least one thing in my life that is out of control! Thank you!!


  3. Awesome article. This touch on so many , area that we deal with daily, to be able to identify and focus is when we need to be the passenger and let the Lord be the pilot. When this happens all will be accomplished.
    Love you Angela… Keep up the good work

  4. I am so glad that you all are enjoying this article. God surely knows how to wake us up and speak through us through various vehicles. Love you all. Stay encouraged.