
Here’s an example of a list of things we want others to embrace that may not be what they want:
· Getting married
· Entertaining
· Obtaining wealth
· Going to church
· Traveling
· Befriending our friends and family
· How we think they should dress
· What they should eat
· How they should walk and talk
· Their career direction and choices


Then there’s you trying to become the person, the person you’ve chosen to spend your time with want you to become. You dye your hair the color he likes, you become the size he wants, you even have sex the way he enjoys it. The list goes on as above and at the end of the day it’s not really you who’s dissatisfied it’s the individual who was trying to change you. You see that person can see through the façade that you’re not really who you’re trying to be and he becomes bored and begins the mode of “next”. So in the end not only have you morphed into someone you’re not you’re left with the excruciating exercise of redefining and rediscovering just who you really are, that is until the next person comes in your life with a new picture of who they want you to be.

Your life’s journey must be about your desires, your dreams, your goals, your hopes, and your beliefs. The optimum objective is to meet someone who too has their own identity they own dreams, goals, hopes, and beliefs that marry nicely with yours. Neither should become what the other wants if it is not what either individual is seeking. This is not to say that each does not have the ability to bring some great insight and opportunities to each other it simply means that you both respect each other and embrace each other’s journey. In the ideal world you would complement each other. Notice I used the world complement and not compete. A relationship is not to be and should not be a battle of the wills or a competition. Also and this is for free, opposite may attract but they very rarely find lasting happiness. Opposite attraction is generally based on sexual appeal and desires.
Being equally yoked it not exclusive to religion. It has to do with all of the above. These useless exercises of trying to force someone into a life they never asked for and you trying to become someone you’re not and never really wanted to be to please another person are mentally and physically exhausting. Once you accept the plan that God has for you in your life and you embrace it and thrive within it you then have to trust God to bring into your life the perfect complement to the journey laid out for you both. There’s an old saying if it doesn’t fit don’t force it.
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